HOW TO IMPROVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS… :)

 

“Good communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity” BY NAT TUMER.

Its not the matter of your age, background or experience; having an effective communication teaches you a lot. The greatest people of all time are also amazing communicators. It builds the most important thing and that is your confidence.

Some people are afraid of expressing their thoughts, emotions and ideas. They are afraid of environment that what people will think if they speak wrong and will criticize them a lot, but the truth is that if you are wrong then after exchange of ideas we will have RIGHT knowledge about that thing, so try to speak whether you are right or wrong. The communication builds up confidence. While communicating with big gatherings you learn how to communicate effectively, confidently and much more.

“Confident communicators can reveal their Failures as well as their Successes” BY DIANNA BOOHER.

                                                 

Here I am going to discuss some tips to improve your communication skills. FOR further reading about  communication importance, purpose and benefits, you can read my previous article below

https://ecofriendly50810504.wordpress.com/2018/07/08/effective-communication-purpose-importance-benefit

 

BE BRIEF

Be brief about everything you are discussing. You should have clear thoughts about the things you are going to discuss. If you are so much passionate about the topic, your thought become garbled, if you just track your conversation on different key points. A good habit is to have 4 to 5 key points and make your discussion circle round that points, this way you will be able to have an effective communication and will learn more. Make it clear what you are trying to convey.

For example, your motto of discussion is to attain information and you want to give your point of information to discuss that. If a person know your motto in advance then conversation will run smooth and results will be effective and according to your hope.

 

BE A GOOD LISTENER

When you are communicating with others your first job is to put listener at ease. This helps you to become comfortable with other and made them feel like they are like you. If you are expressing your thoughts to others and they are listening peacefully then its your duty as well to listen to them calmly and let them expressive about their thoughts. If your conversation is not ended according to your hopes, then try to end it politely and peacefully, instead of rushing and fighting with each other because that will leave negative impact on both.

“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them” BY RALPH NICHOLS.

 

 KEEP THE DISTRACTIONS OFF

Try to put all your distractions off while communicating. Don’t use mobile phones while negotiating with each other. Put your mobile phones on silent because it can distract your attention from the communicator. If your mobile rang, then take an excuse if its urgent to attend otherwise turn it off immediately and continue your discussion. Distractions kill the concentration of communication and its no more an EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION!

 

GESTURES

Be careful about what you are saying and what’s your movement of hands because it leave great impact on people. often it happens that your gestures don’t convey the right message of yours and people take it in negative way, so try to have an effective gestures that highlight your saying and have influence on others instead of distracting them to negative thoughts.

For example, when you fold your arms, this shows that person is becoming reserve and the other person also become reserve while communicating. So your gestures must be taken into consideration while having communication. Try to practice as much as you can!

“Be yourself! Don’t try to fabricate your personality in the guise of impressing others” BY ASHISH PATELA.

 

COURAGE TO SAY ANYTHING

Be confident about your thoughts and ideas. Be confident in knowing that you will make the conversation worthwhile and results will be amazing. Don’t hesitate to convey your point of view whether its right or wrong. May be from the thing you fear and don’t convey to others prove positive and worthwhile to the other person. Practice interactions with others, in this way you will have a social circle and that will give you positive outcomes in future.

“No relationship can prosper without proper communication. And you can’t be the only one communicating” 

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CONSTRUCTIVE ATTITUDE

Your attitude leave great impact on your conversation. Try to be honest, patient, optimistic, respectful and sincere to others. Don’t interrupt the other person because it breaks the flow of conversation so show good and sincere attitude towards others.

“People may hear your WORDS, but they feel your attitude” BY JOHN C MAXWELL.

MAKE EYE CONTACT

If you have eye contact during communication then it helps you build rapport and will convince others that this man has interest, knowledge and is trustworthy. During communication its important to have an eye contact with people.

If you giving a presentation or addressing to audience then the major thing to convey your view point is to have an eye contact. Neglecting anyone will loose your point of discussion and will not leave any impact on people and will start avoiding you.

 

CHOOSE APPROPRIATE TIME

As there’s a saying, that there is always a right time and a right place for communicating with each other. Avoid discussing long topics if you know that you have short time to discuss the heavy topics. Feel free to discuss anything whether major or minor, if you feel like you have free time so that you can negotiate in productive and effective manner. Try to have clarity of the things in your conversation. Have open environment for your conversation, where you have freedom to discuss anything. 

“The time is always right to do what is right” BY MARTIN LUTHER KING JR.

 

APPROPRIATE VOLUME

Speak softly, calmly and loudly when you are addressing public meeting or big gatherings. Your tone must not be harsh, it must be soft and gentle. Try to have varying frequency in your voice to leave impact on people. If you want that people must listen to you then raise your pitch and then lower it periodically. Try to speak slowly with pauses, avoid making your communicating flow fast because it always result in bad communications and people loose interest.

 

OBSERVE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE

Try to practice communication gestures and body language. You should try to talk in a way that everyone get positive gesture. Your body language must be effective to impress others that what you are talking about. Be aware of your eyes and hand movements because they effect the most while having communication. Be careful with humor. Do not take it tooo long because if you keep on laughing and smiling, your communication will loose point and will not be taken seriously.

“GOD please teach me to speak right words at the right time with right tone, so I can live in peace and happiness” BY ANURAG PRAKSAH RAY.

 

DO PEOPLE SUFFER FOR NOT HAVING COMMUNICATION WITH EACH OTHER?

Yes, people suffer a lot. They have poor and broken relationships with others. They lack understanding and always remain frustrated because their inner thoughts never come out because theirs no one to listen to them which result in all time anxiety and anger. They suffer a lot in their job matters or public communicating matters. They feel lonely. They have no confidence and always remain backward in society. They have less knowledge and are unable to stand properly in society.

POOR COMMUNICATION MAKES THEM SUFFER A LOT.

Communication is a process, by which human behavior is modified and shaped; and good results are expected for the people.

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EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION…. Purpose, Importance & Benefits :)

Communication is the exchange of knowledge between the person whether it is face to face or through any electronic media. The importance of communication is same as the significance of breathing. Indeed, it helps you form relationships with people.

Before the advent of internet, people use to exchange their knowledge face to face, but after this discovery people have lack of communication skills due to which they lack good relationships with others. For example, teachers share their knowledge and experience with students. Moreover, the author communicate with people and convey his/her thoughts via book. Book is the authors weapon to communicate. No company can make progress if it lacks the communicating people. Communication play a vital role in lives of human beings. It helps you express your ideas, thoughts and emotions to others which result in affection or hatred towards others.

       “The art of communication is the language of leadership” By JAMES HUMES.

 PURPOSE & IMPORTANCE

Let’s discuss the purpose & importance, that why to communicate effectively.

BULK OF INFORMATION:

Try to have relevant knowledge about everything so that you can transfer information at right time to right person. Information must me conveyed in easy way so that the other person understands it properly without any difficulty. The use of difficult words should be avoided.  

TO CHANGE BELIEFS:

The purpose of your communication should be to provide authentic information to others so that they can implement in their lives. For example, theirs a doctor and a patient and patient is suffering from serious disease but you don’t want to tell him/her because the illness and disease spreads as your mind start functioning according to it. When patient is living his/her life without any stress of disease then he/she will be able to recover soon. So you must have strong points to negate with others that change the perspective of others too and they are pushed to listen to your thoughts instead of giving lame excuses and forcing them to listen to you. This makes the communication WIERD!

“When the language is used without a true significance, it loses its purpose as a means of communication and becomes an end in itself” BY KARL JASPERS.

SMART HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS:

When you exchange your knowledge with each other, Your mind opens and you have more clear thoughts about the things. You are also able to grasp more information. Effective communication always ends up in promotion of excellent human relations.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others” BY ANTHONY ROBBINS.

MOTIVATION & MORALE:

When you communicate you are motivated to achieve goals and your morale boost up. When you have proper timing and drafting of message with each other, then your skills and motivation level become high. You are more focused towards your goal when you have proper guidance and true supporters. Effective communication build confidence and this is how you move towards your glory of success. For success you can visit and read my another article by lifeofanaspieweb (Kerin Maclean)

https://ecofriendly50810504.wordpress.com/2018/07/03/my-definition-of-success-by-lifeofanaspieweb

                                            

DECISION MAKING AND PLANNING:

Communication is necessary when you have to make decisions and plan something. When you have quality communication with each other then your decisions are easy to make because your decisions are reflection of your future goals. Effective communication lead you towards the proper implementation of your plans and decisions. Sometimes people think awkward to discuss their goals but discussing something with each other won’t harm you but will make your path clear for your future goals. 

“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said” BY DR.PETER F. DRUCKER.

MANAGEMENT EFFICIENCY:

Effective communication leads to managerial efficiency. When you are working in group then its requires some sort of management for your work. If you are able to communicate easily then your implementation of goal becomes easy. For example, if you are working in team and only the one member does all the tasks and don’t consider anyone to work with him/her, then that task usually fail before coming to an end. Effective communication will always lead you towards success and will divide the task and will not burden only one person and you reach towards your goal smoothly. 

CO-OPERATION AND PEACE:

Effective communication creates understanding and trust among people. It provides an end to co-operation. Without communication you won’t be able to solve your problems and inculcate peace in your lives. For peace, you need to communicate and share your problems with others so that you can get better solutions to cope with the situation. Co-operation and understanding come in one major box.

“Communicate. Even when it’s uncomfortable or uneasy. One of the best ways to heal is simply getting everything out and if you live bitterly, you live a lonely existence” BY MYLKNHONEY.                  

 

BENEFITS

• An aid to develop good human, friendly and public relation ships.
• Communication helps in developing leadership and co-ordination among all.
• It helps in effective planning and decision making and solve most of your problems.
• It increases awareness among people and enhances personal knowledge.
• You learn different behaviors of people and learn how to deal with them actively.
• Regular communication bring effective changes to come easily.
• Communication gives you the better image and understanding of other persons thoughts, ideas and perceptions.

Communication is a process, by which human behavior is modified and shaped; and good results are expected for the people.

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PARENTING; AN ART….. ;)

“Parents are the ultimate role models for children. Every word, movement and action has an effect. No other person or outside force has a greater influence on a child than the parent.”  By BOB KEESHAN.

 What makes us to be a good parent? Many people are impossible to answer this question and most of them are unfamiliar with the word good parenting, because, because, because……………………………………………………. will get the answer SOON!

Raising an exemplary family and good parenting is a complete art and can say that it’s “MYSTERY”! If you are good parents then definitely you will be raising a good family and hence the good family contributes a lot to make a good society and a good society makes the happy world to live in.

Each and every action of parents has an influence on child’s life. They contribute a lot towards child development. Parents should try to give an amazing start to the child’s life but most importantly they should try to raise the child with it’s own temperament and “Yes” it’s the duty of parents to provide them that complete environment in which they raise themselves independently and face the world with courage. In this present world, parenting has become some what a competition.

We ourselves think to be perfect parents but then comes something called OVERPARENTING that cripples children when they move in their practical lives. Then their comes LESSPARENTING in which there’s a communication gap between parents and children and this leads to the poor attitudes of children. 

It’s very hard to be called “GOOD PARENTS”, but beside that issue every parent try their best to prove them right, but sometimes they fail to do this and hence the results are worse than expected. Lets discuss some of the tips for good parenting. Hope you will like them.

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OVERPROTECTIVE!

Yes, we think that our overprotectiveness will save our child from every evil and we might be right in this case but we don’t think that it’s child life. To protect them, we impose our ideas and thoughts on our  children and push them to follow; we don’t have a view that our duty is to guide them the right path. We should let our children experience the life by themselves. 

I am not saying to leave them their way, it’s like don’t impose something on them. For instance, your child wants to do engineering and you want your child to become a doctor and the child have told you several times that he has no interest in medical field. After listening the child’s thought you keep on pushing him/her to become a doctor. Is that fair in your eye? Or you think that parents have the right to show their overprotectiveness and let yourself and child regret for whole life? I want you to answer this by yourself, because it’s obvious that parents should give their children to decide their future plans and they should do their duty of guiding them the right path and should not impose something on them for their pleasure.

TRUST!

I myself believe that any parent must not forget about is trust. When the child is born and comes into world, put trust in their parents which I think must not be betrayed because it will definitely become hard to win back.

Don’t give up on your child. Parental support is the biggest weapon to take your children out of trouble and to make them amazing people. Give them the best of yours and best thing you can give them is trust. Trust your children with full faith. Stop doubting their actions (sitting, walking, playing etc.) Many parents in the society have been observed to be suspicious. Be suspicious but not in a way that it hurt the self respect of your child and he be pushed to think that AM I A WRONG PERSON! This gives him/her the complete mental torture of full time.

Try to give them the space in their lives if you want them to be the best person of the society. Being suspicion won’t make them the person you want but will make them stubborn and in that case you FAILED; FAILED IN PARENTING. Avoid to distrust your child even if you have doubts and do communicate with them to make the things settled.

COMMUNICATION GAP!

Many parents are not that much friendly with their children. They lack communication with their children due to which they are always unware of child thoughts and it’s the worse sight ever to be unware of your child views. Their is a lot communication gap that child feel afraid to even discuss about small issues.

Parents should not be afraid to talk to their children. They should try to look at world with the child’s eye and should guide them the best way. They should have small discussion on different topics because their experience gives the opportunity to child to explore and learn something new. Parents should talk with their children as much as possible.

GOOD LISTENER!

Parents should give their children the complete edge to share their thoughts. For instance, children should come to them and should tell them their complete day briefly and it’s the parents duty to be a good listener at that time. The second best thing you can give your child is your love and your attention. These two things can complete their lives.

Communicate as much as you can! Make strong bonds with your children so that they can open themselves at any matter they want. 

LOVE!

We often think that giving them the materialistic things fill every gap of their life but we are wrong at this point. The only thing they want is your love, your attention, your guidance and above all your trust. If you are giving all these things to your child then I bet you that he/she won’t follow wrong path.

Many parents are habitual of sarcasm, anger etc. They are very poor in controlling their emotions. We don’t think that our behavior affect child’s life in worse way. ALL time scolding will make him/her stubborn. Many parents have the shouting way of talking which push the child to have negative thoughts. We our self ruin the life of our children and at the end we blame them when they follow the wrong path. 

Try to give them as much love as you can because these materialistic things are of no use and the only thing that matters is your love and your attention. Love and care are the greatest healers!

COMPARISON!

The biggest flaw of our society is that their exist comparison between children. For instance if their are three daughters and one son than the son would be getting more importance and love and this arises issues in your family. Try to make sure that your all kids know that they are loved equally. If you are buying something for your son then it’s compulsory for you to buy for your three daughters too, so that they won’t feel any ignorance from your side. Treat and love them equally.

FORGIVENESS!

No one is perfect! Everyone do mistakes. Same is case with children. Parents should have big heart to forgive their children. They should not criticize their child for committing that mistake. For instance, when a child do some mistake, parents often scold him and criticize him even if they have forgive. If you have forgive your child once for committing a mistake then don’t criticize him/her on that mistake again and again because after some time that will become a mental torture for your child and in that case your child would  become stubborn and start avoiding negotiations with you and that’s your FAILURE.

SKILLFULL!

Its the duty of parents to make their child skillful. They should try to transfer their own skill to their child. They should make them learn how to be productive in different manner. They should teach them their best they have, so that they can contribute to the society in positive manner.

BASIC NEEDS

Its right of every child to get the basic necessities of life. Parents should give their children a good education and a healthy life style. They should try to give them  everything according to their stature. Providing them with basic necessities is your duty. Its not like to provide them luxurious life. Make them a man that they themselves work hard to get the luxurious life. 

 

Being a good parent is toughest job because parents teach them the real values and manners and this job is completely in their hands whether they want to be good parents or not. Good parents provide all these above mentioned things to their children at home, because if they failed to provide ,then the child start seeking that from outside. They start seeking attention and guidance from outside. Being good parent is being a good role model and a good person. 

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