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Success is very desirable and social media does make it look easier, it’s just like a summary of success versus the full story. In fact, some people only seem to be successful with the clothes, shoes and the occasion trips to Dubai, London, L.A. and elsewhere but in reality, are broke and in debt. I won’t lie even though I know better there’s a part of me that wants what they have. Success has a lot of perks, people are generally attracted to things that seems successful and that’s probably why some people do it. Anyway, to be successful there are some important questions you should ask yourself. Give yourself a great self-examination and see if you pass in flying colors! If you don’t try again later. All these questions don’t have to be answered immediately, unlike a normal exam, there’s no exact time limit, it’s a matter of how well not how fast.
The 7 Important Questions
In light of the news about Kylie Jenner that broke last week who is on course to be the youngest billionaire according to her Forbes magazine cover; you might be wondering how to go about being successful. These are some important questions to ask yourself to put you on track.
1. What Does Success Mean to You?: Let’s take it back to 2009, Drake & Trey Songs released a song called “Successful” and the standout line in the song is “I want the money, money and the cars, cars and clothes, the girls I suppose, I just wanna be, I just wanna be successful”. I remember singing this song with passion and I still like it! Fast forward to recent times, Drake is the biggest rapper in the world, he had an 8-year run where he was on the billboard charts every single week! He even did 1 billion streams first week for his new album Scorpion, he is one of the most recognizable faces in the world and he is meme gold! He always has the wheels of social media moving as can be seen in the new #KekeChallenge from his song ‘In My Feelings’… “Keke do you love me? Are you riding?” Plus, he does have the money, cars, clothes, girls and much more. Drake is a marketable behemoth and we can’t all be Drakes but it is important to put a personal meaning to ‘success’ because when you personalize something you can take it more seriously.
2. What Does It Take and Do I Have It?: Sometimes doing your best is not good enough. Sometimes you must do what is required. – Winston Churchill. Being successful in a field has certain requirements such as ‘grit’ and sometimes we’re just not up to the task, it may seem harsh and insensitive but it’s the truth. Sadly, it isn’t always your fault because you really might’ve given it your all! If you have to go on a journey that requires a full tank of petrol but you only have half tank you’re not going to make it there with the car. If you want to be a top athlete for example, you may need grooming from a young age, strict diet, discipline and to try and remain drug free. If you can’t do all those things, it’s hard to imagine how ‘successful’ in that field you’ll be.
3. What are You Willing to Do?: Being successful needs you to sacrifice certain things or as Mark Manson author of the New York Times best-seller The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck said what shit sandwich are you willing to eat? Gary Vaynerchuk owner of Wine Library TV, author and investor said on one of his Instagram posts that “From 1991-2006 I worked every day of the summer, all day, building up my life and career and legacy. I missed a lot of fun, leisure, good times, memories, but I was on a mission, I was focused, I was willing to eat dirt, be patient, be judged and go through it to scratch the itch of my ambition.” You must determine your opportunity cost for success, i.e. the alternative you let go to get something else. Life is about exchange and that’s why karma exists so you’ll be rewarded for your actions. If you spend your time working hard and smart, networking, educating yourself and honing your craft then you’re more likely to be successful than if you did nothing. So, will you sacrifice your time, energy, leisure, laziness etc. to be successful? Identify what you need to start doing and stop doing and then take action and see how things start changing.
4. Why Do You Want to be Successful?: In his book Millionaire Success Habits, Dean Graziosi talks about an exercise which basically involves asking WHY? So, you need to be asked why you want to be successful 7 times and each answer will lead into the next question. For example, if I say I want to be successful because I want to move out of my parents’ house then the next question would be why do you want to move out of your parents’ house? Graziosi said if it’s done right then the 7th answer will be your truest reason and it will make you dig deeper into yourself to find a solid answer. He said that when he answered the last question he broke down crying and his final answer was that he wanted ‘control’. You can do this exercise by yourself but it’s more effective if you have a partner, preferably a mentor.
5. Do You Believe in Yourself?: Self-belief is probably the most important ingredient for success because you need to be able to believe in yourself to keep on doing the work you need to do. Think of it this way, if you’re going on a long journey and you have two options: First, you can board a faulty bus that can breakdown anywhere along the way and the way is full of risks. Second, you can board a strong and sturdy bus that can go a couple rounds of the journey without breaking down but the way is still risky. Which one will you choose? When you believe in yourself then you know that you can withstand the incoming risks at full capacity but when you’re self-doubting or self-loathing, it can easily get the better of you and you will breakdown along the way; it might be better to not even start the journey sometimes. If you don’t believe you’re any good, how can you except to carry the weight of an idea and turn it into something tangible? How do you convince others to join you on your quest to success?
6. Does Competition Motivate or Demotivate You?: Confidence is a needed resource in the business of success, you can’t do without it. For example, Michael Jackson didn’t become Michael Jackson without him being confidence in his own ability and craftsmanship. Competition is bound to happen because other want to be successful as well. Serena Williams is one of the best tennis players ever and one of the best athletes in the world right from when I was a kid I’ve been hearing about her. She was asked during an interview if she was concerned about being at the top and having to play people at their best all the best. She said she doesn’t really bother to check out her competitor’s games because they always play on a different scale when they face her. She’s kinda unfazed because she said they make her better when they play at their best. If you get demotivated when you think about competition then I can’t imagine you being successful because it comes with the territory! Elizabeth Smith from Career Girl Daily said that “Being envious of others is actually just being envious of what makes them successful, or ‘better’. Your answer to this question will determine your self-worth and will tell you if it’s something you need to work on.”
7. Can You Keep Your Goals to Yourself?: Back in 2011 Lil Wayne released an iconic song ‘6 Foot 7 Foot’ which had so many punchlines but a standout line was ‘…real Gs move in silence like lasagne’. Another line from a song that sticks out to me is from J Hus’ (U.K. rapper) ‘Plottin’ where he said, “don’t think I’m shy ‘cause I’m quiet, I’m just plottin, I’m plottin”. These two lines emphasize that silence is golden! These days with social media information can be shared instantly and, honestly, it’s harder to keep some things to ourselves. According to an article from Life Hack Life, when we’ve had a new splendid idea whether it’s an epic novel or an exciting new website, the temptation to shout it on the rooftops is high. You should resist the “temptation and only speak about it after it is done because once you tell someone, the brain is swayed into believing you’ve already completed the goal which in turn could decrease your motivation if people are already telling you how impressive it is”. Do more, talk less then you can truly lap up the praise. really experience this because sometimes I’m so excited to spill the beans about my plans to others and I find that afterwards it doesn’t work out even though I convince myself that telling others will suspend the sword of accountability over my neck.
8.How Will I Be Successful?: This question can be slightly interpreted as “what can I do to be successful?” This involves identifying your talents, gifts or skills and seeing how best you can leverage them. Many of us can only be exceptionally good at one or two things not many we shouldn’t aim to be Jack and Jacquelines of all trades and masters of none. Nelson Mandela was a persuasive and head strong lawyer with very compelling oratory and negotiation skills. How effective would he have been if he was a singer or footballer compared to Beyoncé or Cristiano Ronaldo and vice versa? This question also involves identifying your dreams and goals and planning out how to accomplish said goals because a goal without a plan is just a wish. (see How to Set Your Goals and Smash Them) A plan is the vehicle for goals or dreams; an effective plan can be a rocket and a poor one can be a hearse. (See 11 Steps for Creating an Effective Plan)
Quote of The Day: “Making your mark on the world is hard. If it were easy, everybody would do it. But it’s not. It takes patience, it takes commitment and it comes with plenty of failure along the way. The real test is not whether you avoid failure, because you won’t. it’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.” – Barack Obama
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