HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED FOR LONG-RUN!

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There comes many times in your life when disappointment surrounds you, and destroys your hopes. Try to give yourself the positive environment so that you become motivated to achieve your goals. Achieving your goals and dreams is not a hard task. Its often easy. You just need to stay motivated for long time.

I myself have struggled a lot with motivation, whether its related to my studies, my goals, my dreams or just my hobbies. Its not really as hard as it looks like. You just need to stay sincere with your own lives and work hard, that’s all; what time demand from you. Do justice with your life, than the life will do justice with you and will reward you everything you deserve.

This is the topic that matters to me and influence my life. If you are looking forward to achieving your goals, there are my 09 tips that would help you a lot.

“The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle” BY STEVE JOBS. 

09 TIPS TO STAY MOTIVATED

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1.SET YOUR GOALS: Setting your goal is quite important. Be precise while setting your goal because this helps you to measure your achievement. Maria Moraca said once that when you feel things overwhelming, then get back for just few moments and remind yourself that why you chose that path . Was there any special reason behind it? Was that for the reason that will give you long-term happiness and have any other long term plan. This thinking of yours will help you to clarify your goals and make them achievable and realistic. Setting your goal helps your mind to focus on a target, rather than wasting energy in shooting aimlessly. It gives you something to focus on and put 100% of your effort into it  and this focus is what gives you MOTIVATION.

If you aim at nothing, you will hit it every time” BY ZIG ZIGLAR. 

2.BREAK YOUR GOALS INTO SMALL PIECES: When you start making more important and major goals, and you know that they will take time to accomplish, then its must for you to break your goals into pieces because if you are not going to do this then it will seem overwhelming, and  will cause you to procrastinate and avoid working on it.

For example, your goal is to loose 50 pounds weight and its hard job to be done within days so you set your goal for 5 months which will divide 10 pounds on each month further divided 2 lbs a week. So now you see the importance of breaking goals. Firstly, it was looking quite shocking that how will you loose 50 pounds weight! But breaking your goal into pieces made it manageable and achievable and you are still motivated and not loosing hope. This method can make hard tasks to be done in easiest and simple ways.

3.STOP ASSUMING MONEY TO MOTIVATE YOU: KAREN STRUNKS; a motivational trainer once said: “Many people think money alone will be enough to motivate them, and whilst that may do so initially, it’s very hard to sustain financial motivation if the work you are doing actually drags. If you do that type of work for long enough you will find that no amount of money is worth swapping parts of your life in activities that aren’t aligned with who you are and what truly is your passion and mission in life.” So what you need to do is to be true to yourself  and work hard to achieve your goals.

4.MAKE IT FUN: Find physical and sport activities for yourself. Enjoy doing workouts. Join different clubs like volleyball, football etc. Your physical activity must be fun loving and healthy and should not be boring because it helps your mind to stay motivated. Fun loving healthy physical exercises teach you the lesson of motivation. Researches have found that sitting idle for long hours have bad influence on your health and you become lazy and lethargic and are no more motivated towards any of your goal. If you are motivated towards these things to do than you will also be motivated towards other goals of your life. These small term plans will help you to look forward to long term plans.

5.BE CONSISTENT: KAREN STRUNKS said: “Take consistent action every single day.” It means that if you are not in mood of doing something, then just try to do the little part of your goal. Staying motivated is within your reach. Its all just about keeping your goal in your mind and breaking it to make it manageable. Don’t sit idle if you are not in mood; instead of doing larger part of it do a smaller part. Being consistent is the key to success. (see https://ecofriendly50810504.wordpress.com/2018/07/16/8-important-questions-to-ask-yourself-if-you-want-to-be-successful-by-ofai-edori )

“Results happen over time, not overnight, work hard, stay consistent and be patient.”

6.BE FLEXIBLE: A time comes when you are too busy to make your work done and you are simply just tired of your hectic routine; then the best way is to take a day or two off. Be calm with  yourself if you really think that you need a break. The important thing is that you must return back to your work as soon as possible. It’s the person’s mentality, that when you return back after a short break, you become more active, motivated, determined and enthusiastic towards your work. Its the key to keep yourself motivated in long run. When you really think that you are slipping off your track, then have a review of these tips 😉

7.GIVE YOURSELF REWARDIts important to reward your self after the success of your work to stay more motivated and energetic. The feeling of relief and excitement is what that fuel you, when you feel like you are not having mood to work. This self visualization gives you more courage to work on more harder task and feel proud of your self.

“Good, better, best. Never let it rest. Till your good is better and your better is best” BY ST.JEROME.

8.HAVE POSITIVE INFORMATION: If you have uplifting and inspiring information with yourself, then you will stay motivated. In your life you must have some reminders that will help to remind you that you are capable of achieving your goal. For example, some people are habitual of reading and this habit has positive impact on their lives and boost them and up their motivation level. Pierce said: “If you fill your mind with uplifting and inspiring information, it will keep you motivated. Go to the bookstore or library today and find at least one book on a positive topic that will give you a boost. You need constant reminders telling you that you are capable of achievement.”

9.TAKE CONTROL OVER THINGS: There’s a time when everything is under your control and then the time comes when its not, You need to realize that why is it so. Don’t become so much emotional on this that you start forgetting achieving your goal and it paralyzes your progress too. Things don’t stay same forever. You just need to do is to stay calm and motivated and handle your own actions and reactions. Always work for the things that are in your hands and leave rest of the things on our fate.

“Take control of what you can, and don’t worry about what you can’t” BY STACIA PIERCE.

NOW ITS YOUR TURN, If you liked my article then HIT like and comment below and share your thoughts, that why is it necessary to stay motivated and how it benefits you.

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In order to enhance your personality you can have a look on my article on personality development:

https://ecofriendly50810504.wordpress.com/2018/06/20/personality-development

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HAFSA.

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LIFE LESSONS!

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One of the hardest things you can do is to learn from your lessons. The things you learn in anger, frustration and hardships are your real teachers. Every individual in this society has its story. Some have tough stories that teaches you everything and some have the stories that lead them to the wrong path.

My todays article include some of the lessons of famous artists, creators or innovators that will lead you live a successful life ahead.

 

LIVING A MEANINGFUL LIFE

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“Value not the things you have in life, but rather who you have in life.” BY http://www.livelifehappy.com

  • REGRETS ON DEATH BED:

BRONNIE WARE is a nurse and lives in Australia. Her job is to do counseling of dying people and almost a decade passed that she is still doing that. After some time, she began to conclude and observe that people regret on death bed. After 12 years, she was able to tell the most common regret of people lives, and that is:

“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”

Why we are only left with this question at the end? And what should we do to make it better?

The answer to these questions is YOU. You have the power to rule your life and to take decisions by yourself instead of being dependent on others to run your life. If you need to portray an example life for others than follow the BULLSEYE METHOD, stated by MICHEL DE MONTAIGNE:

“A skillful archer ought first to know the mark he aims at, and then apply his hand, his bow, his string, his arrow and his motion accordingly. Our counsels go astray because they are not rightly addressed, and have no fixed end. No wind works for the man that has no intended post to sail towards.”

The BULLSEYE method focuses on what we really want from our lives. You have a clear aim in your mind that what your life is mend for and you are the most successful person.(see https://ecofriendly50810504.wordpress.com/2018/07/16/8-important-questions-to-ask-yourself-if-you-want-to-be-successful-by-ofai-edori )

  • CONTRIBUTE TO YOUR LIVING:

The people who contribute used to live happy, long and healthy. They live longer and longer. Its the way you can live in a meaningful foundation. We often spend to much time visiting the world and observing the people, instead of shaping our own lives. Be the active participant in your life and contribute to the world around you. Creating and contributing doesn’t make you feel alive, but will keep you alive.

The life should be short and full of activities instead of consuming a lot and contributing less towards society. Try to give best and true style to yourself.

Lets have an example of famous artist Pablo Picasso; an artist of 20th century. He had a remarkable story but have shadow side as well. He had great love for his art and everything in front of this art has to take backseat. He had primary relationship with his art. According to critic ARTHUR DANTO, “Picasso invented a new style each time he fell in love with a new woman.”  Every strength has a tradeoff.

Now, you be thinking, “Well, you don’t have to cheat on your spouse to produce great art or beat up others to become a good boxer. Those are two different things.”

  • LIFE LESSONS BY 116 YEARS OLD LADY:

BESSE COOPER an oldest living person in the world was 116 years old when she died. She had an interview with the Guinness Book of World Records, where she was asked about the secret of long living. In reply she gave two pieces of advice:

“I mind my own business. And I don’t eat junk food.”

Lets see the wisdom behind these advices……….

MINDING YOUR OWN BUSINESS keeps you away from unnecessary dramas, competitions, comparisons and stress. Stress kills you silently. When we focus on our lives then it would be easy for us to mind our own business at any cost. Its really a good advice to follow to keep yourself out of worries and earn a peaceful living.

DON’T EAT JUNK FOOD… keeps you healthy and long living. She gave a good idea that; not to fill your life with ‘JUNK’ thoughts, ‘JUNK’ people, and yes the ‘JUNK’ food. Your health and happiness are merely the things that help you remember what the life is and why it is mend for.

 

LESSONS TO BE LEARNED

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1.What To Do When You Feel Giving Up: Sometimes it happens to you when you feel like giving up your task. You are struggling for a long time but now your mind is suggesting you to give up this task. Consider more thoughts and take them as your suggestions, not an order. Try to motivate yourself for thinking that you will feel good when that task would be done, and you have the courage to do that task. Remember, they are not the orders, these are merely the option and you can choose between them.

Maintain perspective of your life. Your life will give you pleasure and happiness when you will step into the moment of discomfort and will test yourself because that feeling and decision will strengthen you. 

“Far and away the best prize that life has to offer is the chance to work hard at work worth doing” BY THEODORE ROOSEVELT.

2.What To Do When I Feel My Work Is Not Good Enough: Self doubt and self judgement are the keys to move towards success and make your life better at any cost. When you start comparing your work with good ones than your mind opens and you have more positive thoughts. Some people when start doing self judgement, than they start loosing self confidence. Try that your self judgement won’t take over your self confidence. Each task you perform has its special importance and will have success when is unique from the other.

Sometimes we need to approach some different styles and work and yes that’s the requirement of the society. Have faith in yourself when you do anything, but don’t doubt yourself too much that at the end you stop doing that work. Doubt in sense of becoming better, if once its not good then in second try it will become perfect.

3.Importance Of Saying Thank You: ‘Thank You’ is the most appreciated word you can give to others. There are different situation in which using magical words is quite important and most important among them is THANK YOU…. Lets see different situations in  which you should say Thank You:

  1. Say thank you when someone praises you or gives you compliment.
  2. Say thank you when someone gives you and open end of doing your work according to your choice.
  3. Say thank you when you get an helpful approach from someone.
  4. Say thank you when you are receiving unfair criticism because that will help you back off from fight.
  5. Say thank you when you are not sure to say thank you to someone and when someone gives you unsolicited advice.

Life is all about learning. It is the best teacher to teach us the amazing aspects of life. Life is the name of UP’S and DOWN’S, everyone has something to share with others about your life. Now its your turn guys. I want you to share some short and meaningful experience of your lives to make people aware about some other sides of life too.

NOW ITS YOUR TURN, If you liked my article then HIT like and comment below.

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Reference:
https://jamesclear.com/life-lessons,
https://jamesclear.com/shadow-side,
https://jamesclear.com/116-years-old-lessons-oldest-living-person,
https://jamesclear.com/short-unimportant-life,
https://jamesclear.com/top-regret-dying-people

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8 Important Questions To Ask Yourself If You Want To be SUCCESSFUL! By OFAI EDORI

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HEY EVERYONE! This is my second amazing guest post by OFAI EDORI, a guy of 20 from NIGERIA. He used to write on personal or self development topics. He used to motivate and encourage people by his writings. Blessed morning and Blessed MONDAY, that I am sharing the great work of OFAI with you guys. All you need to do is to subscribe and follow the OFAI blogs and promote them. You will surely be liking his work. All links are given below. 

Success is very desirable and social media does make it look easier, it’s just like a summary of success versus the full story. In fact, some people only seem to be successful with the clothes, shoes and the occasion trips to Dubai, London, L.A. and elsewhere but in reality, are broke and in debt. I won’t lie even though I know better there’s a part of me that wants what they have. Success has a lot of perks, people are generally attracted to things that seems successful and that’s probably why some people do it. Anyway, to be successful there are some important questions you should ask yourself. Give yourself a great self-examination and see if you pass in flying colors! If you don’t try again later. All these questions don’t have to be answered immediately, unlike a normal exam, there’s no exact time limit, it’s a matter of how well not how fast.

The 7 Important Questions

In light of the news about Kylie Jenner that broke last week who is on course to be the youngest billionaire according to her Forbes magazine cover; you might be wondering how to go about being successful. These are some important questions to ask yourself to put you on track.

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1. What Does Success Mean to You?: Let’s take it back to 2009, Drake & Trey Songs released a song called “Successful” and the standout line in the song is “I want the money, money and the cars, cars and clothes, the girls I suppose, I just wanna be, I just wanna be successful”. I remember singing this song with passion and I still like it! Fast forward to recent times, Drake is the biggest rapper in the world, he had an 8-year run where he was on the billboard charts every single week! He even did 1 billion streams first week for his new album Scorpion, he is one of the most recognizable faces in the world and he is meme gold! He always has the wheels of social media moving as can be seen in the new #KekeChallenge from his song ‘In My Feelings’… “Keke do you love me? Are you riding?” Plus, he does have the money, cars, clothes, girls and much more. Drake is a marketable behemoth and we can’t all be Drakes but it is important to put a personal meaning to ‘success’ because when you personalize something you can take it more seriously.

2. What Does It Take and Do I Have It?: Sometimes doing your best is not good enough. Sometimes you must do what is required. – Winston Churchill. Being successful in a field has certain requirements such as ‘grit’ and sometimes we’re just not up to the task, it may seem harsh and insensitive but it’s the truth. Sadly, it isn’t always your fault because you really might’ve given it your all! If you have to go on a journey that requires a full tank of petrol but you only have half tank you’re not going to make it there with the car. If you want to be a top athlete for example, you may need grooming from a young age, strict diet, discipline and to try and remain drug free. If you can’t do all those things, it’s hard to imagine how ‘successful’ in that field you’ll be.

3. What are You Willing to Do?: Being successful needs you to sacrifice certain things or as Mark Manson author of the New York Times best-seller The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck said what shit sandwich are you willing to eat? Gary Vaynerchuk owner of Wine Library TV, author and investor said on one of his Instagram posts that “From 1991-2006 I worked every day of the summer, all day, building up my life and career and legacy. I missed a lot of fun, leisure, good times, memories, but I was on a mission, I was focused, I was willing to eat dirt, be patient, be judged and go through it to scratch the itch of my ambition.” You must determine your opportunity cost for success, i.e. the alternative you let go to get something else. Life is about exchange and that’s why karma exists so you’ll be rewarded for your actions. If you spend your time working hard and smart, networking, educating yourself and honing your craft then you’re more likely to be successful than if you did nothing. So, will you sacrifice your time, energy, leisure, laziness etc. to be successful? Identify what you need to start doing and stop doing and then take action and see how things start changing.

4. Why Do You Want to be Successful?: In his book Millionaire Success Habits, Dean Graziosi talks about an exercise which basically involves asking WHY? So, you need to be asked why you want to be successful 7 times and each answer will lead into the next question. For example, if I say I want to be successful because I want to move out of my parents’ house then the next question would be why do you want to move out of your parents’ house? Graziosi said if it’s done right then the 7th answer will be your truest reason and it will make you dig deeper into yourself to find a solid answer. He said that when he answered the last question he broke down crying and his final answer was that he wanted ‘control’. You can do this exercise by yourself but it’s more effective if you have a partner, preferably a mentor.

5. Do You Believe in Yourself?: Self-belief is probably the most important ingredient for success because you need to be able to believe in yourself to keep on doing the work you need to do. Think of it this way, if you’re going on a long journey and you have two options: First, you can board a faulty bus that can breakdown anywhere along the way and the way is full of risks. Second, you can board a strong and sturdy bus that can go a couple rounds of the journey without breaking down but the way is still risky. Which one will you choose? When you believe in yourself then you know that you can withstand the incoming risks at full capacity but when you’re self-doubting or self-loathing, it can easily get the better of you and you will breakdown along the way; it might be better to not even start the journey sometimes. If you don’t believe you’re any good, how can you except to carry the weight of an idea and turn it into something tangible? How do you convince others to join you on your quest to success?

6. Does Competition Motivate or Demotivate You?: Confidence is a needed resource in the business of success, you can’t do without it. For example, Michael Jackson didn’t become Michael Jackson without him being confidence in his own ability and craftsmanship. Competition is bound to happen because other want to be successful as well. Serena Williams is one of the best tennis players ever and one of the best athletes in the world right from when I was a kid I’ve been hearing about her. She was asked during an interview if she was concerned about being at the top and having to play people at their best all the best. She said she doesn’t really bother to check out her competitor’s games because they always play on a different scale when they face her. She’s kinda unfazed because she said they make her better when they play at their best. If you get demotivated when you think about competition then I can’t imagine you being successful because it comes with the territory! Elizabeth Smith from Career Girl Daily said that “Being envious of others is actually just being envious of what makes them successful, or ‘better’. Your answer to this question will determine your self-worth and will tell you if it’s something you need to work on.”

7. Can You Keep Your Goals to Yourself?: Back in 2011 Lil Wayne released an iconic song ‘6 Foot 7 Foot’ which had so many punchlines but a standout line was ‘…real Gs move in silence like lasagne’. Another line from a song that sticks out to me is from J Hus’ (U.K. rapper) ‘Plottin’ where he said, “don’t think I’m shy ‘cause I’m quiet, I’m just plottin, I’m plottin”. These two lines emphasize that silence is golden! These days with social media information can be shared instantly and, honestly, it’s harder to keep some things to ourselves. According to an article from Life Hack Life, when we’ve had a new splendid idea whether it’s an epic novel or an exciting new website, the temptation to shout it on the rooftops is high. You should resist the “temptation and only speak about it after it is done because once you tell someone, the brain is swayed into believing you’ve already completed the goal which in turn could decrease your motivation if people are already telling you how impressive it is”. Do more, talk less then you can truly lap up the praise. really experience this because sometimes I’m so excited to spill the beans about my plans to others and I find that afterwards it doesn’t work out even though I convince myself that telling others will suspend the sword of accountability over my neck.

8.How Will I Be Successful?: This question can be slightly interpreted as “what can I do to be successful?” This involves identifying your talents, gifts or skills and seeing how best you can leverage them. Many of us can only be exceptionally good at one or two things not many we shouldn’t aim to be Jack and Jacquelines of all trades and masters of none. Nelson Mandela was a persuasive and head strong lawyer with very compelling oratory and negotiation skills. How effective would he have been if he was a singer or footballer compared to Beyoncé or Cristiano Ronaldo and vice versa? This question also involves identifying your dreams and goals and planning out how to accomplish said goals because a goal without a plan is just a wish. (see How to Set Your Goals and Smash Them) A plan is the vehicle for goals or dreams; an effective plan can be a rocket and a poor one can be a hearse. (See 11 Steps for Creating an Effective Plan)

Quote of The Day: “Making your mark on the world is hard. If it were easy, everybody would do it. But it’s not. It takes patience, it takes commitment and it comes with plenty of failure along the way. The real test is not whether you avoid failure, because you won’t. it’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.” – Barack Obama

Well, that’s it from me guys! Now it’s your turn!

Your Turn

Remember to TAKE ACTION because to know and not to do is truly not to know. Are there some extra contributions you have or you want to say something then Comment below! If you found this topic interesting and want some more ‘success based’ posts then SUBSCRIBE to my blog to get my free e-book 10 KEY HABITS of SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE. Don’t forget to Share this post on social media. Follow me on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and Pinterest. Thank you very much, Hafsa for this opportunity I truly appreciate it! Check out my blog Evergreen Lifestyle Gems.

Thanks.

Ofai.

HOW TO IMPROVE COMMUNICATION SKILLS… :)

 

“Good communication is the bridge between confusion and clarity” BY NAT TUMER.

Its not the matter of your age, background or experience; having an effective communication teaches you a lot. The greatest people of all time are also amazing communicators. It builds the most important thing and that is your confidence.

Some people are afraid of expressing their thoughts, emotions and ideas. They are afraid of environment that what people will think if they speak wrong and will criticize them a lot, but the truth is that if you are wrong then after exchange of ideas we will have RIGHT knowledge about that thing, so try to speak whether you are right or wrong. The communication builds up confidence. While communicating with big gatherings you learn how to communicate effectively, confidently and much more.

“Confident communicators can reveal their Failures as well as their Successes” BY DIANNA BOOHER.

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Here I am going to discuss some tips to improve your communication skills. FOR further reading about  communication importance, purpose and benefits, you can read my previous article below

https://ecofriendly50810504.wordpress.com/2018/07/08/effective-communication-purpose-importance-benefit

 

BE BRIEF

Be brief about everything you are discussing. You should have clear thoughts about the things you are going to discuss. If you are so much passionate about the topic, your thought become garbled, if you just track your conversation on different key points. A good habit is to have 4 to 5 key points and make your discussion circle round that points, this way you will be able to have an effective communication and will learn more. Make it clear what you are trying to convey.

For example, your motto of discussion is to attain information and you want to give your point of information to discuss that. If a person know your motto in advance then conversation will run smooth and results will be effective and according to your hope.

 

BE A GOOD LISTENER

When you are communicating with others your first job is to put listener at ease. This helps you to become comfortable with other and made them feel like they are like you. If you are expressing your thoughts to others and they are listening peacefully then its your duty as well to listen to them calmly and let them expressive about their thoughts. If your conversation is not ended according to your hopes, then try to end it politely and peacefully, instead of rushing and fighting with each other because that will leave negative impact on both.

“The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them” BY RALPH NICHOLS.

 

 KEEP THE DISTRACTIONS OFF

Try to put all your distractions off while communicating. Don’t use mobile phones while negotiating with each other. Put your mobile phones on silent because it can distract your attention from the communicator. If your mobile rang, then take an excuse if its urgent to attend otherwise turn it off immediately and continue your discussion. Distractions kill the concentration of communication and its no more an EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION!

 

GESTURES

Be careful about what you are saying and what’s your movement of hands because it leave great impact on people. often it happens that your gestures don’t convey the right message of yours and people take it in negative way, so try to have an effective gestures that highlight your saying and have influence on others instead of distracting them to negative thoughts.

For example, when you fold your arms, this shows that person is becoming reserve and the other person also become reserve while communicating. So your gestures must be taken into consideration while having communication. Try to practice as much as you can!

“Be yourself! Don’t try to fabricate your personality in the guise of impressing others” BY ASHISH PATELA.

 

COURAGE TO SAY ANYTHING

Be confident about your thoughts and ideas. Be confident in knowing that you will make the conversation worthwhile and results will be amazing. Don’t hesitate to convey your point of view whether its right or wrong. May be from the thing you fear and don’t convey to others prove positive and worthwhile to the other person. Practice interactions with others, in this way you will have a social circle and that will give you positive outcomes in future.

“No relationship can prosper without proper communication. And you can’t be the only one communicating” 

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CONSTRUCTIVE ATTITUDE

Your attitude leave great impact on your conversation. Try to be honest, patient, optimistic, respectful and sincere to others. Don’t interrupt the other person because it breaks the flow of conversation so show good and sincere attitude towards others.

“People may hear your WORDS, but they feel your attitude” BY JOHN C MAXWELL.

MAKE EYE CONTACT

If you have eye contact during communication then it helps you build rapport and will convince others that this man has interest, knowledge and is trustworthy. During communication its important to have an eye contact with people.

If you giving a presentation or addressing to audience then the major thing to convey your view point is to have an eye contact. Neglecting anyone will loose your point of discussion and will not leave any impact on people and will start avoiding you.

 

CHOOSE APPROPRIATE TIME

As there’s a saying, that there is always a right time and a right place for communicating with each other. Avoid discussing long topics if you know that you have short time to discuss the heavy topics. Feel free to discuss anything whether major or minor, if you feel like you have free time so that you can negotiate in productive and effective manner. Try to have clarity of the things in your conversation. Have open environment for your conversation, where you have freedom to discuss anything. 

“The time is always right to do what is right” BY MARTIN LUTHER KING JR.

 

APPROPRIATE VOLUME

Speak softly, calmly and loudly when you are addressing public meeting or big gatherings. Your tone must not be harsh, it must be soft and gentle. Try to have varying frequency in your voice to leave impact on people. If you want that people must listen to you then raise your pitch and then lower it periodically. Try to speak slowly with pauses, avoid making your communicating flow fast because it always result in bad communications and people loose interest.

 

OBSERVE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE

Try to practice communication gestures and body language. You should try to talk in a way that everyone get positive gesture. Your body language must be effective to impress others that what you are talking about. Be aware of your eyes and hand movements because they effect the most while having communication. Be careful with humor. Do not take it tooo long because if you keep on laughing and smiling, your communication will loose point and will not be taken seriously.

“GOD please teach me to speak right words at the right time with right tone, so I can live in peace and happiness” BY ANURAG PRAKSAH RAY.

 

DO PEOPLE SUFFER FOR NOT HAVING COMMUNICATION WITH EACH OTHER?

Yes, people suffer a lot. They have poor and broken relationships with others. They lack understanding and always remain frustrated because their inner thoughts never come out because theirs no one to listen to them which result in all time anxiety and anger. They suffer a lot in their job matters or public communicating matters. They feel lonely. They have no confidence and always remain backward in society. They have less knowledge and are unable to stand properly in society.

POOR COMMUNICATION MAKES THEM SUFFER A LOT.

Communication is a process, by which human behavior is modified and shaped; and good results are expected for the people.

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EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION…. Purpose, Importance & Benefits :)

Communication is the exchange of knowledge between the person whether it is face to face or through any electronic media. The importance of communication is same as the significance of breathing. Indeed, it helps you form relationships with people.

Before the advent of internet, people use to exchange their knowledge face to face, but after this discovery people have lack of communication skills due to which they lack good relationships with others. For example, teachers share their knowledge and experience with students. Moreover, the author communicate with people and convey his/her thoughts via book. Book is the authors weapon to communicate. No company can make progress if it lacks the communicating people. Communication play a vital role in lives of human beings. It helps you express your ideas, thoughts and emotions to others which result in affection or hatred towards others.

       “The art of communication is the language of leadership” By JAMES HUMES.
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 PURPOSE & IMPORTANCE

Let’s discuss the purpose & importance, that why to communicate effectively.

BULK OF INFORMATION:

Try to have relevant knowledge about everything so that you can transfer information at right time to right person. Information must me conveyed in easy way so that the other person understands it properly without any difficulty. The use of difficult words should be avoided.   y

TO CHANGE BELIEFS:

The purpose of your communication should be to provide authentic information to others so that they can implement in their lives. For example, theirs a doctor and a patient and patient is suffering from serious disease but you don’t want to tell him/her because the illness and disease spreads as your mind start functioning according to it. When patient is living his/her life without any stress of disease then he/she will be able to recover soon. So you must have strong points to negate with others that change the perspective of others too and they are pushed to listen to your thoughts instead of giving lame excuses and forcing them to listen to you. This makes the communication WIERD!

“When the language is used without a true significance, it loses its purpose as a means of communication and becomes an end in itself” BY KARL JASPERS.

SMART HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS:

When you exchange your knowledge with each other, Your mind opens and you have more clear thoughts about the things. You are also able to grasp more information. Effective communication always ends up in promotion of excellent human relations.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others” BY ANTHONY ROBBINS.

MOTIVATION & MORALE:

When you communicate you are motivated to achieve goals and your morale boost up. When you have proper timing and drafting of message with each other, then your skills and motivation level become high. You are more focused towards your goal when you have proper guidance and true supporters. Effective communication build confidence and this is how you move towards your glory of success. For success you can visit and read my another article by lifeofanaspieweb (Kerin Maclean)

https://ecofriendly50810504.wordpress.com/2018/07/03/my-definition-of-success-by-lifeofanaspieweb

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DECISION MAKING AND PLANNING:

Communication is necessary when you have to make decisions and plan something. When you have quality communication with each other then your decisions are easy to make because your decisions are reflection of your future goals. Effective communication lead you towards the proper implementation of your plans and decisions. Sometimes people think awkward to discuss their goals but discussing something with each other won’t harm you but will make your path clear for your future goals. 

“The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn’t said” BY DR.PETER F. DRUCKER.

MANAGEMENT EFFICIENCY:

Effective communication leads to managerial efficiency. When you are working in group then its requires some sort of management for your work. If you are able to communicate easily then your implementation of goal becomes easy. For example, if you are working in team and only the one member does all the tasks and don’t consider anyone to work with him/her, then that task usually fail before coming to an end. Effective communication will always lead you towards success and will divide the task and will not burden only one person and you reach towards your goal smoothly. 

CO-OPERATION AND PEACE:

Effective communication creates understanding and trust among people. It provides an end to co-operation. Without communication you won’t be able to solve your problems and inculcate peace in your lives. For peace, you need to communicate and share your problems with others so that you can get better solutions to cope with the situation. Co-operation and understanding come in one major box.

“Communicate. Even when it’s uncomfortable or uneasy. One of the best ways to heal is simply getting everything out and if you live bitterly, you live a lonely existence” BY MYLKNHONEY.                  

 

BENEFITS

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  • An aid to develop good human, friendly and public relation ships.
  • Communication helps in developing leadership and co-ordination among all.
  • It helps in effective planning and decision making and solve most of your problems.
  • It increases awareness among people and enhances personal knowledge.
  • You learn different behaviors of people and learn how to deal with them actively.
  • Regular communication bring effective changes to come easily.
  • Communication gives you the better image and understanding of other persons thoughts, ideas and perceptions.

Communication is a process, by which human behavior is modified and shaped; and good results are expected for the people.

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MY DEFINITION OF SUCCESS!!! BY lifeofanaspieweb

Hey guys…This is my first guest post by Kerrin Maclean. She is an excellent writer. You can read and follow her, I will leave all her links below so make sure to visit her social media links and also donate for her good cause.

ABOUT SUCCESS:

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We tend to question ourselves including myself what success really is and how we define it is up to us. We have the power I myself included every right to make everyday choices that is deemed suitable for myself and you and only us. Before we all try to chase or pursue our dreams – we need to come to an acknowledgement of an understanding or knowing what success really is and what success isn’t.

We all want and crave for attention of success and to feel powerful and successful in what we do yet there’s nothing wrong with that. We all chase money, fame, fortune, power, education and relationships. Yet, again the question remains if we don’t stop- have we already reached to the point of success? Also, in saying this everyone’s perception of success can be faulty!

Question to ask myself is what is success?

According to Merriam Webster Online Dictionary the definition of success is defined as:
1) Degree or measure of succeeding.
2) Favorable or desirable outcome also the attainment of wealth, favor or eminence.
3) One that succeeds.

Also, the definition from Dictionary.com defines success as:
1) Favorable or prosperous determination of attempts or endeavors of the accomplishment of one’s goals.
2) Attainment of wealth, position, honors or the like of whatever it may be.
3) Performance or achievement that is marked by success i.e. Attainment of honors or scholarships etc.

It’s known that many people myself included may pause and think about what success truly means to them and myself and succeed into everything that we do to become a better version of ourselves.
I believe that if we don’t ask ourselves this question along with many questions that all is broken and lost. The answer we’re seeking for is that I and yourself just need to believe and not rush the maturity, self, mental and spiritual growth along with mine and yours learning process in our journey. We may as well end up climbing up the wrong ladder of someone else’s version of success. Those people who have achieved in their own rights, terms and merits are those who are crystal clear on what it means for them to reach to the top. If we want to follow their footsteps, we must achieve equal clarity and understanding. Success is setting our goals, dreams and visions along with objectives and trajectories based on what my heart so desires and craves for not in what someone else wants from me. The very simple and profound truth of it all is that whatever the day brings for me to make me happy and at peace in myself and for myself may not make you happy and at peace for yourself and vice versa.

I believe that we truly fail myself included and also feel defeated from certain everyday situations that we can all learn from our past mistakes and learn from them. Our mistakes are our lessons in life to teach us, prepare us and help us to grow maturely, spiritually and mentally.
I strongly believe – if we ever try to pursue someone else’s dreams, visions, goals and path, we’ll feel so tired, frustrated and unhappy and that we all ultimately will lose ourselves and not be at peace within ourselves or anything that comes up to test our limits, patience and boundaries.

As Bruce Lee said, “Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, don’t go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”

The first step and path to success starts with us by asking ourselves,
“What really makes me happy?” “What makes me at peace in myself?”
The next steps to ask myself are:
o Where have I already seen success in my own life?
o How can I continue to build up on that success?
o What life lessons have I learnt from these successes?
o What I learned about myself from these successes?

Success is both a goal and long journey in self-discovery. When we reach a certain milestone or path, that we tend to give up from there and this is an important part to the element of success not to give up from what you’re doing and to keep on going or moving forward and not to look back. Also, to not allow others to hold us back. Finding the right  people who loves me and supports everything I am and what I do. I should never stop. I need to keep pushing myself forward, higher and harder to strive more and to be better in myself.

I need to ask myself some sure fire specific questions to myself and they are:

  • What truly matters to me the most?
  • What truly ignites me and sets my passions on fire?
  • What truly ignites me and sets my passions on fire?
  • Who I want to become?
  • What lifestyle do I want to achieve and accomplish in life?
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The question you will be asking yourselves is “What does success means to me?”
Success means to me in the following:

  • Little achievements and accomplishments that I’ve made i.e. Making new friends on either social medias or the outside world.
  • Sharing my life story with Asperger’s Syndrome.
  • Creating an awareness and understanding of all this.
  • The everyday choices I’ve made in the good, bad and the ugly to keep moving forward, not to dwell on the mistakes I may have made and not look back..
  •  Allowing room for mistakes and also for personal growth in maturity, mental and spiritual.
  • Being alive and kicking.
  • Being a doer and not a goanna.
  • Believing in myself and loving what I do.

Before I do make the first step and decision of making forward I need to access where I am now. I need to be honest and do a self-evaluation on myself. After all this is said and done- that is then time to set some specific goals for myself. These goals are to be achievable yet set and concrete but it’s still challenging for me. If I don’t define success- someone else will define it for me!

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WEIGHT MATTERS!

Daily exercising, healthy diet and habits maintain a good life style. You look charming and beautiful when you are have a fitted body and a healthy life style. Obesity is nothing but a disease. There are only two ways of making yourself fit; taking proper amount of healthy diet and maintaining your proper activity level.

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Dieting; the way of maintaining healthy life!

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Obesity or overweight affects the life of each and every individual differently and it’s hard to discuss about. The first step of yours is to replace your normal routine plan with a good eating plan. Your age, physical fitness, activity level and health are some major issues that must be taken into consideration while planning your diet. A young man/woman can eat more than an old man/woman, so diet must be planned according to age level.

To maintain your physical fitness health diet you need to consume more natural stuff like grains, fruits, vegetables, meat and cereals. You need to maintain a proper amount of vitamins, proteins, fats, fibers and minerals. It may cause dangerous issues when you will have excess of these. Try to have a balanced diet and before intake of few things; do consult a doctor, like if you have less vitamin D in your body and after intake of it, it become high then it may be poisonous for your body. Taking excess vitamin C don’t harm you; excess of it get absorbed in your bones. So it’s better to consult doctor for your deficiencies. Sometimes obesity is also caused by deficiencies in your body.

 Maintain water level in your body. Drink at least 8-glass of water daily. It is important for being healthy. Avoid all the fizzy drinks and just drink the normal water. Water increases your energy level and also promotes your weight loss. It enhances your skin tone and you look fresh and healthy. It also maintains regularity and boost your immune system. When your body functions good you feel happy and amazing!

For healthy eating and a dieting plan, an average person needs to take 2-4 servings of fruits, 2-4 servings of vegetables, 1-2 serving of meat stuff, 5-10 servings of grains or cereals and 3-4 servings of milk products. If you are not going to maintain this average eating plan for yourself then it may have a chance of eating things in excess. After taking these meals you will be able to loose at least 2 Kg with workouts.

WORLD HEALTH ORGANIZATION recommend: “Not to eat 30% of fats in your daily diet and take at least 10% of simple sugar stuff or below 5% of calories or 25 grams may be even better!. Eating 400 grams of fruits and vegetables per day is enough.” Healthy diet helps you maintain healthy life. The body needs specific nutrients to function properly. Your proper workout and nutritious diet will maintain your ideal weight and you will stay active!

“Skin care is like dieting. You have to invest time and effort. There is no instant miracle cure.” By Karen Grant.

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EXERCISING; maintaining physical and mental fitness

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Exercising is essential as a nutritious diet. Exercising not only maintains your physical looks but it also makes you look active and healthy. It reduces your depression  and you feel good. Overweight people have high cholesterol and blood pressure level. When you add a healthy exercise to your daily routine then the level of these factors decrease.

“Obesity alone makes a person very vulnerable to heart disease, but also susceptible to an additional 65% chance of having at least one added risk for heart disease, diabetes and or stroke and a 50% possibility of having two or more of these as possible risk factors. Some other possible risks are high blood pressure, high blood sugar, cholesterol and blood fats that are not all curable with insulin and are considered the metabolic syndrome” By LISSNER. 

There are different types of exercises which you can adopt to make yourself  fit. For example;

Weight Lifting: It loses body fat. You will burn more calories if you have high metabolism rate. It also helps in building your muscles.

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Lower Back: It lowers the stress on your spine and you feel free from lower-back pain.

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Upper Back on Swiss ball: It helps you shape the back of your shoulders.

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Hip Raise: It helps you reduce your belly. It reduces the fat of your stomach. All stress lies on your back and so your belly becomes flat. So this exercise gives your body a shape.

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Running: Running at least 20 minutes daily will make you active and fit. It also helps in reducing your weight and your growth of  hormones enhance. It lower your cholesterol level and boost up your immune system.     

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These all factors help you to stay mentally and physically healthy. These all tips can easily be done at home and your life will be healthy, happy and long.

If you think you have better tips for maintaining your health then do comment in comment box and share your experience with others.

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